“Coping With Grief During A Holiday” Pace Yourself Allow yourself to slow down. You do not have to uphold all the traditions and obligations you have done in the past if you are not up to them.
To Say “No is Okay This means you can turn down invitations or visitors if you are not up to attending/having them. People will understand if you are unable to attend. Pamper Yourself If you use up to much energy you will not have the strength to take care of yourself or others. Take extra time for yourself.
Crying Is OK Crying is a natural outlet of grief…do not apologize for expressing your feelings of grief. You need to feel comfortable expressing your emotions.
Tell People What You Need Other will not know how to help you if you do not let them know what your needs and wants are. Do not hesitate to tell others what you need…ask for help…tell them what you want.
Remember Your Physical Needs Remember to get enough to eat, get enough sleep, drink plenty of fluids to keep your strength up.
Honor Rituals Rituals hold many memories and emotions. After a death some of the family rituals may become more or less important. Let others know what rituals are meaningful to you and you wish to continue and let them know which ones you are going to let go of, for now. It is okay to change your rituals.
Make New Traditions Making a new tradition signals to you and to others that your life has changed. It does not mean that the old traditions are not important but since your life has changed by the death of a loved one considering a new tradition is sometimes helpful. Make A List Holidays can be a very busy and stressful time, even in the best of times. To help cope with the stress of making plans make lists of things that need to be done so as to avoid a last minute rush to get something done that you forgot. Also make a list of people you can call to be of strength and help to you get through the tough times during the holidays. Talk With Your Family Discuss what will be important to the family during the holiday season. Find out how others feel about how to celebrate the season. Sharing your feelings can be very healing for a family.
Lean On Your Faith Whatever your faith may be, remember to take time for your spirituality. It can be a source of strength and comfort during this difficult time.